This is a short, seven minute message by Pope Francis on Christian Unity to a Pentecostal Conference:
On the same day I watched this one, I got another one sent to me from the conference he was addressing. The backstory as to how Pope Francis came to address this meeting is phenomenal. It is about 45 minutes long and well worth knowing (Pope Francis is a Charismatic Christian, just like Saint Francis of Assisi was openly charismatic. That is why he took the name Francis as pope).
There are four minutes in the beginning of Kenneth Copeland speaking and leading prayer (at a conference with thousands of major leaders from huge evangelical Pentecostal churches in the US). Then Kenneth introduces someone he mentored years ago, Bishop Tony Palmer, who is now a bishop in the Anglican church who has been working with the past three popes for Charismatic renewal in the Catholic Church. Tony lived in S. Africa for years and then was led to go to Rome to help Catholic Charismatic Renewal, at the request of the Vatican. He also was in Argentina for a time and was good friends with the priest who eventually became Pope Francis. The pope called him a little while after he became pope and asked Tony to meet with him. When Pope Francis heard Tony was going to attend the K. Copeland leadership conference, he asked if he could videotape a message to the group of leaders.
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Please comment and let this young lady know you were blessed!You see the rain, it’s in the sky. You see the pain, it’s in the eyes. Like a grown man to minimize. At midnight you can hear the bitter cries. Love & hate, each has a thin line. I see you swallowing all the pain & pride to pretend its fine. At times you wish if only you could have seen this ahead of time, You would avoid all the pain that you feel inside. You can’t sleep, all the memories, crying out to God like “Would they ever leave?” Lord remember me, I need the remedy, Lord I don’t wanna feel like I’m sleeping with the enemy. This whole thing is bitter sweet; I should forgive since Christ has forgiven me. Well at least I know that in my head, But it’s so much easier [done than] said. It takes time, minutes pass; Erase the lines, you finished last. Because you keep submitting to what’s in the past. Now you’re going through this cycle like a plastic glass. I know it’s a process, healing takes time while you’re still trying to get pas[t] what that person did. Now you’re feeling like a monster explaining to the one above everything your mind said. It cut you & hurt you; God knows everything you been through. How you’ve been bruised, yes he’s in tune; He says forgiveness is the healing [of those] wounds. So you have to let it go,”let it go!” It’ll kill you if you let it grow. Un-forgiveness is a poison the choice is yours, I’m just a voice here to let you know. Your flesh says; I can’t forgive, can’t forget. They apologized, you can’t accept. You demand respect, imagine that; When every time you sinned God canceled that. And every time Christ has forgiven you, every time you’ve eaten a piece of that bitter fruit. I know you’ve been used, been abused; I’m not in your shoes, But I know if you dig up the bitter root, Show em love to overcome, God says ‘Love your enemies’, it’s part of growing up. Don’t hold a grudge, I know it’s tough, But if Christ forgives, died for our sins to give life though we [don't] have the right to live. Then we should know how to wave our rights to win. Whether a family or a friend, you gotta show em love. But then again forgiveness is your choice. But if i were you i would choose Love.
Please let this young Christian know you were blessed!
*Also, please forgive the words in brackets… they are mine… in order to make the transition from the local “West Indian” dialect to American English.
All too often, though, we forget to listen to one another’s hearts.
To listen, really listen, means to risk being changed by what we hear.
And that is often the problem, isn’t it? Particularly within families or marriages… or as John Bradshaw likes to refer to these relationships as “environments of shame.”
Why is this typical? People are basically focused on themselves. In many cases, they are often listening to any evidence of challenges to (or affirmations of) their worth.
You see, most people have not yet disengaged from using other people as their mirrors. People once served as our mirrors during childhood. They helped us gauge the rightness or wrongness of our actions. However, our interactions with others taught us a lot more than how to treat others or what was and was not socially acceptable.
We formed our identities based on these interactions!
Our beliefs about who we are and what we are worth were formed by how well we believed that were received by others. Our own appraisal of ourselves determined what the truth was. This is referred to as the “reflected appraisal process.” Unfortunately, children often misinterpret the truth of a situation and make poor judgments about their worth or identity as a result.
But if the criticism from “our mirrors” was harsh or if it came to us with the threat of abandonment, humiliation, or loss, our perception of our worth was challenged and our hearts often wounded in the process. So what does this have to do with becoming a better listener?
Well, when people are in conversation with others and they hear anything which touches on an old wound or resembles a blow they received to their self-esteem or identity, they will perceive a threat to their worth. This will frequently invoke a defensive reaction and their ability to listen to others with maturity and with an open heart will be completely lost. Often what ensues is a wounded reaction or a cycle of blaming and accusing will commence.
When you listen are you waiting to judge, dismiss, or find some point of contention? Do you have a habit of subconsciously gathering evidence to prove that you are right and others are wrong? Do people’s discussions tend to get turned around and end up being about you? Then it is possible that you are still allowing others to be your mirror. You likely have a wound in your heart that needs to be healed and you are not truly convinced of your worth.
Sadly, most people suffer from one or more painful wounds and doubts about their worth. This is the biggest detractor from maturity, inner peace, and relational harmony or Christian unity than any other thing. Unfortunately, we cannot convince ourselves of our true worth without first being healed and transformed. That is the crux of my ministry’s message. But Jesus Christ can help! Jesus wants to be your mirror. He will:
- Heal your wounds:
- Because He is God, He can heal them instantly, without decades spent on a counselor’s couch.
- Erase your shame;
- Help you to become more vulnerable by allowing you lean on His strength rather than your own;
- Freely give you a sense of your priceless value, a value He gave you without needing to earn it;
- Teach you how His adoption of you gave you a royal heritage and identity.
God made human beings in His Image, so He made everyone of us with the need to look to Him as our mirror. We are transformed in His loving and approving gaze, as follows.
But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory… (2 Corinthians 2:18a)
If you are a Christian, you may be agreeing with me right now. You already realize that all of this can be obtained by being born again and then reading the Bible. Unfortunately, this, alone, does not always bring about the quick healing or maturity that one needs to walk in total peace, harmony, and wholeness. If it did, then the churches would not be full of people who have been Christians for decades who can still be heard in their neighborhoods screaming obscenities at their family members, getting divorces, or taking medication for depression.
[For those of you who are not born again, to be born again, we merely have to open our hearts to Jesus in that all-important first step of faith or trust. That is simple to understand, isn't it? Trust is required for any new relationship to begin!]
The subsequent learning that is required for full transformation to take place is much quicker to be obtained by attending a non-shaming Church and engaging in Bible studies with people who are there to affirm and build others up rather than tear them down in judgment.
It also helps to find a church that believes healing the heart rather than one that invariably ends up shaming others into submission. (Although some people respond well to shame, shaming does very little to help people and actually does more harm in the long run).
But tragically, even many of your more loving, “grace” churches fail to have programs that bring healing to the heart. They often believe in the strategy of suppressing and denying their pain with Scriptural truths rather than dealing with the pain honestly, openly, and compassionately. Of course, God’s word never returns to him void, but there is a faster way to be transformed.
Unfortunately, knowledge to heal the heart is not readily available to every pastor or church organization. Consequently, those that want to help are frequently not always sure of how to help. That is why many people inadvertently end up getting hurt even in the best of churches. Sadly, in most churches very little attention is being paid to this area of emotional healing. That is where I would like to help.
If you need help healing from your wounds and understanding the Bible better so that you can quickly be healed and transformed, I recommend that you read ACCELERATED TRANSFORMATION: MATURITY, INTIMACY, AND UNITY THROUGH EMOTIONAL HEALING by me, Tracey Nelson, M.Ed. You can find it here normally – http://thespotlessbride.com. But for now, during website construction, please go to (see below)… http://traceywebdesign.wix.com/thespotlessbride#!goals instead. Thanks.
I will also come to your organization or church to train people such as your pastoral staff or whomever is interested in setting up a healing and transformation program. You may contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Currently, I have a limited number of openings to coach/mentor people individually into wholeness. But if I am not available, I can connect you to someone who is.
In the meantime, try to become a better listener. Try not to listen with your wounds. Put yourself on the shelf while you listen to your loved ones and those with whom you interact. Assess your conversations to see if you turned the subject around to be about you or if you really listened. Then determine what it was about that conversation that made you need to do that. If you react to something said, analyze the interaction and maybe you can find out where that wound originated from in the past or how the words spoken to you seemingly challenged your worth or value. Take that discovery to the Lord and ask Him to heal you.
I pray that this information has been of assistance to you and will make you a better listener.
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The Christian walk in a process requiring much growth and development for all who are involved. The fact that Emanuella can share her journey into maturity so openly is refreshing. Thanks for sharing this Emanuella. It is a perfect example of what this blog is all about! If you ever have more to share about this topic, please let me know. Blessings.
The National Geographic channel has a show, Amish: Out of Order, which brings attention to what I address a great deal in this blog; religious pride, using shame as a form of control, legalism, and disunity.
While the Amish seem to suffer more extreme shame and fear than most Christians do, what makes it relevant for all people is that the same use of rejection, abandonment, and intimidation as a form of control is still experienced among many groups and individuals in the world just as it is within the Church-at-large at varying degrees of intensity.
Click on the link, below, to take a look at this short video of this interesting television program.
I really enjoy this series. It depicts the journey of a former Amish gentleman, Mose Gingerich, as he tries to support young men and women on their journeys to freedom while living outside of the Amish community. It is easy to detect the humble and genuine heart of Gingerich as he works through the issues facing these people once they leave home. Unfortunately, when they do, they get shunned, rejected and abandoned by their families and community. They are also told they are going to go to hell for leaving the Amish. As he helps these youngsters adapt, you get to witness Mose’s own struggle as he comes to grips with the scars of rejection that he faced when he left the Amish.
This form of control by fear is a favorite tactic used among many individuals and groups. Yet this is not a uniquely Christian phenomenon. For example, this strategy is often used by children on the playground against their peers when they threaten abandonment or rejection those they want to control do not comply with a group norm or individual expectation. Additionally, it is used by parents and teachers who send kids into “time out.” Islamic governments use it to force Islam upon citizens.
Fear through rejection and abandonment seeks to control us by capitalizing upon our psychological dependence upon others for our significance and self-esteem. As a matter of fact, rejection, abandonment, shame, and intimidation were the main tools used by the Communists in both China and the former Soviet Union to brainwash prisoners of war and unruly citizens. Their brainwashing was so effective that soldiers who had made it safely home after being imprisoned and tortured still confessed to false crimes months and years later. (I write about that quite a bit in my book, Accelerated Transformation: Maturity, Intimacy, and Unity through Emotional Healing).
Thank God, Christ sets us free from the brainwashing of this world. Jesus abolished our need to get our identities and significance from others when He happily adopted us into His family (Romans 8; Isaiah 61). You see, acceptance and adoption are the opposites of rejection and abandonment. This is why Jesus gave us the free gift of Grace to break us free from fear and bondage to lie-based thinking. He did this when He exchanged report cards with us. He chose to take our F’s and give us His A’s so we could have free access to our Heavenly Father. We were told to come boldly to the Throne of Grace in time of need… so we never again have to fear abandonment.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love (I John 4:18 ).
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to punish the world, but that the world might be saved through Him (John 3:16-17).
We don’t need to look at the scornful eyes of others in order to find out who we are any longer. We are told to look into Jesus’ loving eyes, as if in a mirror, to see who we are… for we are made in His image.
Gingerich stated that even after having been away from the Amish for nine years that it is still hard for him to believe he will ever get into the Kingdom of Heaven despite receiving a great deal of encouragement from the viewers of the show, as follows,
I have for many years been at a place in my life where I, like the Amish taught me, hoped that if I tried very hard all my life, there is a slight hope that I can enter the kingdom of God. However, when I left the Amish in 2002, although I still prayed quite a bit, it seemed a very long shot for me to have a chance anymore.
Gingerich’s statement demonstrated that the Amish have a works-based salvation rather than a faith/grace-based salvation. Gingerich said until you have lived with this, it is hard for anyone to really understand why it is so hard to feel secure in the assurance of salvation promised in Scripture. Hopefully this understanding of brainwashing can provide the Amish with a better idea why. The only remedy for a situation like this is emotional healing and renewing the mind. The good news is, Gingerich has begun to pursue this type of healing, as you will see in this episode.
I have really enjoyed watching the evolution of Gingerich and the ex-Amish in this series. Be sure to set your DVRs to catch Amish: Out of Order on NatGeo (National Geographic Channel) at 9:00 PM Eastern on Tuesday nights. They also feature reruns from time to time.
1. Mose Gingerich on Amish: Out of Order. Retrieved May 30, 2012 from http://amishamerica.com/mose-gingerich-amish-out-of-order/
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This quote by Mohandas Gandhi is the main premise behind this blog. While not intended to be harsh, it is to provide a wake-up call to Christians… to bring them up to a higher level in their walk with Christ… particularly in their treatment of others. Our Father’s goal is to make us like Him (Genesis 1:26-27). We do this when we see His example of God walking in the flesh, Jesus Christ.
When Gandhi was questioned by the missionary E. Stanley Jones why he rejected becoming a follower of Christ he stated,
“Oh, I don’t reject Christ. I love Christ. It’s just that so many of you Christians are so unlike Christ. If Christians would really live according to the teachings of Christ, as found in the Bible, all of India would be Christian today.“ (Emphasis mine)
It is sad to think that the Christians lost India because of their immaturity, pride, and divisiveness. These are the issues my book, Accelerated Transformation, seeks to remedy; teaching in greater detail one of the things that this blog strives to help Christians discover, that they need emotional healing if they want to be transformed into Christ’s likeness quickly.
Gandhi’s statement reflected the prayer of Jesus Christ for Christian unity in John 17:21-23. Jesus said if His people loved one another and walked in unity, the world would finally believe in Him. This was a powerful statement for worldwide revival. Seems the answer to world evangelism has been staring us in the face!
It is important to mention that when Jesus prayed this prayer for oneness, it was around the time of the Communion/Passover supper. This fact enhances its significance even more as this ritual (in the Christian tradition) reflects our communion with Him and with one another. It is likely this was why the apostle Paul said when Communion is taken unworthily some get sick and die (I Corinthians 11:30).
There is some debate to his exact meaning here but one can plainly see that divisiveness between believers was one of the problems he was addressing in this chapter. Jesus reflected the same sentiment when he said if you remember that a brother or sister has something against you when offering your gifts, “leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift” (Matthew 5:23). With these things in mind, it would be important for Christians to reflect on how they treat their brothers and sisters before they take the Lord’s Supper (Eucharist). Jesus told us in John 17 how much it would it benefit the whole world if they did!
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About Gandhi – Without the nonviolent protests and work of Gandhi, India’s struggle for independence would have taken much longer and it would have resulted in a great deal more blood shed and division. One of Gandhi’s greatest influences in life was Leo Tolstoy, a Christian aesthetic who promoted Christ’s ideas of non-violence in his book entitled, The Kingdom of God is within You.
1. Samuel, D. (2008). “Mahatma Gandhi and Christianity.” Christian Today. Retreived on May 18, 2012 from http://in.christiantoday.com/articledir/print.htm?id=2837
2. Slick, M. (2012). “What does it mean to take Communion in an unworthy manner?” The Voice of the Martyrs. Retrieved on May 18, 2012 from http://carm.org/questions/about-church/what-does-it-mean-take-communion-unworthy-manner
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