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This blog is dedicated to helping Christians recognize and heal mindsets that have kept them locked in strife with other Christians.

Why is this important?

Because Christian unity is the key to worldwide revival! Jesus Christ taught us that unity is the secret to true Kingdom advancement when He prayed:

That they all may be one… so that the world may believe and be convinced that You have sent Me. …And that You have loved them [even] as You have loved Me. (John 17:21-23 AMP)

Whether we are talking about taking offense with our pastor, fellow church member, or with another church group or denomination that we disapprove of, Jesus intends for us to forgive them because unity is to be among our greatest priorities. He is telling us that our love for one another will be the litmus test that proves to the world that God is real and His perfect expression of love to them was Jesus.

Unfortunately most Christians have been preconditioned by this world’s culture of rejection, shame, manipulation, and selfishness (i.e., “sin”). This causes us to quickly defend ourselves or speak without listening to the hearts of those we are in community or relationship with. We may hear them but don’t usually do a great job of listening. That’s because we are either too focused on the next thing we want to say or we only actually hear what triggers our defenses. Ultimately, this ends up in a breakup or disunity of one sort or the other.

You see, we tend to withdraw from those who make us feel uncomfortable. Therefore, we can never truly benefit from what relationships or communities have to offer us; maturity. Our withdrawal only perpetuates more immaturity, insecurity, and pride (i.e., “sin”). However, unlike those in the world around us, Christians are called to conquer this sin by stepping into the light of the love and grace of Jesus Christ.

Even though the Blood of Jesus is a gift that makes every Christian righteous and acceptable to God, many still continue to deal with a sense of false unrighteousness. This keeps them prone to conflict and locked in those worldly behavior patterns and mindsets that arise from a performance-based acceptance (conditional love). As a result, they become easily offended and resort to using religion like a mask to cover up their deep feelings of insecurity and unrighteousness. Hence the “religious spirit” is born.

Keep in mind that embracing the religious spirit/mask is just another form of control over feelings of insecurity and fear. Other forms of control might include an obsession with exercising, workaholism, or just a need to be in control at all times. But this religious mask is the very thing that makes the people of the world who do not yet know the love of Christ recoil when they encounter many Christians or churches.

Here is a viral video that may help you learn the difference between religious Christians/churches and those that are simply in a relationship with Christ.

But be warned. Even those who claim to be in a relationship with Christ and make it a point to say that they are “not religious,” keep this in mind… just like everyone else in the world, they, too, are subject to the same human tendencies and, therefore, can inadvertently also take on a mask of religion without realizing it.

The remedy to immaturity and pride (and the disunity and strife that they create) is to help Christians fully grasp the grace of God. However, many have difficulty intellectually grasping what that really means. In a world where we pay for everything we get and where love is often conditional, the free gift of acceptance by God is a very difficult concept for fallen humanity to grasp. It is even harder to integrate grace into one’s personality and thinking. This requires transformation; a work the Church is supposed to facilitate but often fails to do.

While the Church has been growing in grace over the past few decades, and is much more capable of teaching it, there are still plenty of churches who remain trapped within the worldly culture of performance orientation and shame. And those that are growing in grace, often get stuck in helping people get from Point A to Point Z in this process because there were blind spots created in our thinking process that blocks our being able to grasp it.

So what I do as a transformation specialist, conflict negotiator/mediator, and life coach is assist people manifest in reality what they already are by grace; spotless and without wrinkle.

While education about grace certainly helps, understanding the grace message is not enough. True freedom and transformation can only happen by healing the broken heart. Unfortunately this is where the Church has gotten stuck for several hundred years. My blog can’t heal your heart, but it can point you in the right direction to get there. It will also do the following…

The Mission of this Blog

  • For Pre-Christians and Ex-Christians – The author of this blog seeks to:
    • Promote healing in those who have been hurt by the Church or individual Christians by:
      • Providing an answer to question why Christians lives do not always show evidence of Christ’s transforming power within;
      • Highlighting the efforts that have already been made towards greater unity;
      • Helping them understand who Christ really is, apart from the bad examples they have witnessed;
      • Showcasing those who are good reflections of Christ on earth.
    • Begin removing the reproach against Christ due the unloving or impure actions of Christians by calling for a new reformation to take place in the Church… a reformation that brings unity rather than the division caused by the Protestant Reformation.
    • To point them to a source for healing, the book entitled, Accelerated Transformation: Maturity, Intimacy, and Unity through Emotional Healing by the author of this blog, Tracey Nelson, M.Ed.
  • For Christians – The author of this blog seeks to:
    • Awaken Christians to the extreme importance of Christian unity;
    • Inform Christians of the significance emotional healing plays in accomplishing Christian unity (bringing greater peace and victory to one’s life overall);
    • Provide articles and resources that will help heal the wounded heart of disunity which brings on the pride, self-righteousness, judgment, fear and strife that makes their lives and the lives of others so miserable;
    • Explain what prevents Christians from fully walking in the power and love given to us by Christ; and
    • To point them to a source for healing, the book entitled, Accelerated Transformation: Maturity, Intimacy, and Unity through Emotional Healing by the author of this blog, Tracey Nelson, M.Ed.

About the Author

Tracey Nelson, M.Ed. is an author and transformation specialist. While her first Master’s degree in adult education and experience as an educator made her an expert in transformational theory, she did not receive her knowledge for transformation in school. School came later and only confirmed what she already learned through the direction of the Holy Spirit. That can’t happen without the study and application of Scripture after decades of walking intimately with Christ and also by mentoring others to Christian maturity. As such, Tracey was directed to write the book Accelerated Transformation: Maturity, Intimacy, and Unity through Emotional Healing as a textbook to help pull together all of the revelation she received. Her goal was to do this in as entertaining and scholarly manner possible using popular culture, Scripture, science, and peer-reviewed literature to support her claims. Her next effort will be a discipleship curriculum based off of this work entitled The Exponential Kingdom © 2010.

Tracey conducts healing workshops and trains leaders to help them address the whole person, body, soul, and spirit according to the principles demonstrated by the life and person of Jesus Christ. She also does pastoral counseling (i.e., life coaching). To book Tracey as a speaker or to learn more write or go to her website at


© Tracey Nelson, M.Ed.

Permissions: You are permitted and encouraged to reproduce and distribute this material in any format provided that you do not alter the wording in any way and do not charge a fee beyond the cost of reproduction. For web posting, a link to this document on our website is preferred. Any exceptions to the above must be approved by The Spotless Bride Ministries.

Please include the following statement on any distributed copy: Written by Tracey Nelson, M.Ed., author of Accelerated Transformation, © Feb. 6, 2009 from: The Spotless Bride Blog, a blog to “Heal the Heart of Disunity” (Some material on blog such as shared articles, images, songs, & videos not owned by author).

2 Comments leave one →
  1. June 30, 2012 12:20 am

    Thank you for sharing, and God bless you.

  2. March 25, 2014 8:31 pm

    Well, well! FINALLY, someone has directly addressed the type of thing that I wrote about a few years ago;

    Tracey, you sound like someone I might be able to engage in a meaningful dialogue, regarding all things “religious and church.”

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